Today I made a post on a site Quoting C.S.Lewis that went as follows: “And men said that the blood of the stars flowed in her veins.” (The Chronicles of Narnia, The Silver Star). One person, and yes it was a man, came back saying basically that women are important but I (the male counterpart) figured into my own accomplishments and blah blah blah… Really, I thought. And I replied, “It’s not your day. Maybe tomorrow….” And again he came back saying basically ‘yeah sure women do stuff, (and again came the “but”) but we guys do stuff blah blah blah… And I’m the hero of my life.’
No one would deny that men have done many prolific and wonderful things! No one! The point here is not about good men, it’s about the goodness and greatness of the female sex. Period. Now I ask you, is it unacceptable to speak well of a woman without a man in the middle of the glory? Can we take a step out of Self and go to a new place?
Americans have long been a people who agree that men and women are like left foot-right foot, right hand and left hand… We need both to walk… All this while one is dominate, and the other is not. That is to say, even if one does not marry, we all have (or had) parents, friends of the opposite sex, perhaps a significant other who impacted our rise to adulthood… Whatever success one has achieved. Yet one is dominant.
Today we have reached a new and important phase, and it advances us to a new philosophy… That the other foot or hand (which is considered to be “not dominant”) makes possible the life of the other. We do not throw away passed agreements, instead we advance to something more significant for both. We honor the contribution of the (in some cases) seemingly less dominant partner. We not only see said contribution, we recognize the real value of it. We even allow it to stand on its own.
So back to my recent recognition of those women who have made possible the lives of the men around them. Again I say, “Today was not your day fellas. It was hers.” You can take a bow on another day. (She winks.) Today we say congrats to the woman who served as that less dominant foot and hand… The one who steadied life so that ‘Mr. Dominant’ could slay the dragons. Hats off to her and thank you!
May your less dominant person feel truly thanked!
Best… Carolyn Thomas Temple