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Four-Footed Saviour

Dogs.  Do you have one?  I do.  His name is Lewis, after C.S. Lewis, one the foremost writers of the Twentieth Century.  Lewis, AKA Lewie, came to our home about a year and half after the death of our son.  We know death, Hubby and I.  He lost his mother at the tender age of sixteen, just as he was getting to know her as an adult and friend.  I lost my brother at the age of twenty-three, just when we were getting ready to share our lives after his stent in the navy.  We’ve both lost our fathers now, and my mother is also gone…  My mother lived with us until her passing, so many of her things are here while she is not (yes, dispersing an estate from a home you shared with the deceased leaves holes that are exhausting but true). We had just recovered from my mother’s passing when our son suffered a massive cardiac arrest in our home and died three hours later in a hospital.  Death.  Yes, we know you well.

After Nathan died, we did all kinds of things to change it up. We redecorated almost every room in colors that were happy and up-lifting.  We framed his […]

By |August 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

“When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful.” – Malala Yousafzai

The mute button was invented by an engineer in 1955 (Polley by name) who worked for Zenith… Although a man named Robert Adler, who invented the television remote, should also be mentioned…  i.e. No remote, no mute button.  Anyway, they both did us a favor.  MUTE on the television means that one can temporarily stop the sound emitted from the television.  One would guess that which one mutes, would be the myriad of commercials that we would otherwise sit through to watch just one tv program.

Ah, silence!  It has always been my friend; so, when my family bought a television set that had this wonderful mute button, it was heaven for me.  One minute some woman is vomiting her vocabulary about her painful twenty-eight day cycle and the next, I have muted her!  No more discussion.  And, let us not forget the many commercial moments about medicine…  Twenty seconds of medical description followed by forty seconds of horrifying disclaimers, as to how this health providing med might also maim or kill the consumer.  MUTE!  How glorious thou art!

In the course of one TV program, there can be as many as six commercials per commercial break.  My parents would hit the mute button and then proceed to read or do cross word puzzles, […]

By |June 23rd, 2017|0 Comments

A New Vision

All this time, I’ve been quoting other people whom I believe to have said something worthwhile.  We need to hear and read things that are worthwhile, as this is a medicine to the brain and to the soul when times are confusing or difficult or both.  Today I’d like to give you a few of my own words in the hope that they will help in these troubled and confusing times.


We all are aware that we have two questionable persons running for the office of President of the United States of American.  We don’t personally know these people, but we have an idea that they are not a statesman or states woman… They seem self motivated or political or both.  And, as citizens, we need (not just want) someone who can not only lead but take us in a direction that is forward. At any rate oh-so-many of us are convinced that our best interests are not at hand where these candidates are concerned; and the people of America are deeply agitated as to the possible direction of our future.  And yet…  Is it they who are important, or is it WE?  We the People!  WE started this country and […]

By |May 17th, 2016|0 Comments

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, become more, you are a leader.” – John Quincy Adams

John Quincy Adams:  A statesman who served this country as the sixth president of the United States of America… He also served this country as a diplomat and a senator and also in the House of Representatives.  He could and did rally people!  He could draw you to think… Not the kind of thinking that happens during commercials between scenes of one’s favorite TV show or out on the golf course… He made you think and learn and act! And, I believe he was right when he said, that when one’s actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, become more, then you were a leader… He was describing himself.

I hesitate to mention the up-coming election because we’re all fed up.  But here goes…  Are we choosing an actual leader for our country, or are we trying to solve the discomfort we may be living in for the moment… Because some of that can only go away with time and no leader can change it in a term of office.  Our focus is not to make ourselves comfortable by electing someone, because every one of us must work for that ourselves.  Again, we have to work for that. […]

By |March 24th, 2016|0 Comments

No Words

I often see the following added on one or so Face Book posts now and again…  “No Words.”  And, each time I’ve seen it, I’ve wonder, “If you had no words, why are you telling us you have none?  Just say nothing at all.”  Then one day I found myself posting the same thing… I read a column that was shared by a friend and what did I say?  “No words.”  And, as I hit Enter, it occurred to me that I had just said the thing I thought was unthinkable.  Why did I do that?

Why indeed.  Did I need to make a statement in spite of myself?  Was I feeling needy in some nondescript way?  Did I just want to type something (I am a pianist… Maybe that was it!).  I couldn’t understand myself.  Often, I think we all say things, when  saying nothing is really more appropriate. And then, a remark grabs us by our heart or just pushes our buttons.

I had that happen recently and what I’ve usually done is to say nothing, or try to find a positive spin.  And when that No Words moment came yet again, the spin I chose was good for others […]

By |February 17th, 2016|0 Comments

Jingle Bells, and All That Jazz

I walked into a large department store around the middle of November, and what did I hear…  Jingle Bells!  And, I do mean bells ringing, not the song.  I stopped mid-step and burst into tears because this holiday season, I and my family will pass through these days without our third of four sons who died suddenly in late August.  I knew the holidays were going to be tough… Hearing those unexpected Christmas bells caught me off guard.  WHAM!  It was a sock in the mid-section.  Oh, I got my act together again quickly …  I did what all other people do, who lose someone and feel so very sad from the loss; I found my Saturday face and stepped back into the day.  But though successfully compartmentalized, all that pain was just sitting there waiting to come out.

Pain after losing a loved one is very much like having an infection of the body; only it’s your soul that is not doing so well.  We have to get rid of that pain, that infection (if you will).  Pain leaves by purging; and, while crying is certainly a part of that, getting our minds on other people as we help them […]

By |November 30th, 2015|0 Comments

“A dying man needs to die, as a sleepy man needs to sleep, and there comes a time when it is wrong, as well as useless, to resist.” – Stewart Alsop

We’re all familiar with that moment when we just can’t keep our eyes open another second, some may fight it, (and I am one of them who has) but in that next moment we’ve betrayed our resolve, we’ve dropped into slumber…  It happens without our permission and without even our knowledge; then we awaken to laugh at how needed that rest really was, and how much better we really feel!  Alsop reminds us that death is the same. You and I can fight it if we wish, but it’s coming none the less.  And yet, this thing about fighting death… I think we do fight and rage against it until we somehow know intuitively that it’s time to lay down the fight and allow God the clear path to do the rest.

Sometimes that letting go can lead to a miraculous recovery!  Sometimes God just wants us to get out of the way, so we can feel Him do what He and only He can do for his children.  (And, when I say children, that is all of us, whether we see that He’s there or not.)  Other times, it really is a sign or some kind of knowledge sent to […]

By |November 3rd, 2015|0 Comments

“I think television has betrayed the meaning of democratic speech, adding visual chaos to the confusion of voices. What voice does silence have in all of this?” – Federico Fellini

A good question… This idea that silence is a part of our process.  It is the yang to the ying, the rests to the notes, and the pause to the run.  We Americans are losing the art of quiet, with all of our running off at the mouth.  should we say something when we’ve yet to consider the wealth of what has already been said?  And, to even speak without listening, or before knowing what thoughtful peace is worth, demonstrates our willingness to consider singularly, our own opinion.  No one… Let me say that again… No one knows enough wealth of thought to speak all of the time.

I value those who can be with me, and enjoy the silence.  I cherish those who can listen and not interrupt.  When I’ve watched recent televisions programs, it is clear that even the writers and directors have no understanding of the importance of simply shutting up, and letting a moment of silence say volumes.  (Are they in a rush to go to commercial?  Where is the story without time to think?)  I find myself walking away from news programs because I don’t see the participants listing to each other… They all seem to […]

By |October 20th, 2015|0 Comments

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” – Confucius

I knew a wise little boy who said that when he sat very still and the clouds moved, he could see angels.  Who knows if he really did, but the expression on his face made me think it was the truth.  And, I believe that sitting still brings about an ability to see other beautiful things… I don’t know what things you see when you sit still… But if you haven’t tried it, I highly suggest you do.

Everyone needs to walk away from the phone, the TV, the kitchen appliances, the computer (I’ll be doing that as soon as I post this) and simply allow ourselves to be in the beauty of creation.  And, when I say creation, I’m talking about everything Man did not make.  (God made something out of nothing…  We just use his creation to make something of our own.)

I love my back yard, which explodes into the desert.  In a minute I’ll be out there listening and looking, and hopefully seeing the beauty.

May your day take you to that quiet beauty as well.


Carolyn Thomas Temple

By |October 12th, 2015|0 Comments

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato

My mom use to quote Bambi frequently with the “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”…  And, it always came after I’d opened my mouth with something everyone could have lived without my having said…  I would like to be able to add that I didn’t ever do that after I grew up, but no chance of that!  I mean, I don’t go out of my way to be unkind, yet I can and have been misunderstood as an adult!  So that leads to the importance of choosing words carefully and knowing well, the person we’re talking to.

My plan, after being hammered hard a few years ago when I was misunderstood, is to say less especially when I’m talking to someone I don’t know well or haven’t seen in a very long time (as people change and have painful experiences, that have happened in my absence).  Making conversation can be very difficult for some of us…  And that’s why this advice is really a wonderful thing…  Say less:  Hubby told me the first year we were married, that if I just ask questions most people will think you an amazing conversationalist, because people love to talk […]

By |September 30th, 2015|0 Comments